The Case for Calling Instead of Texting (I Was Wrong All Along)

I used to love texting. The strategic delayed response, the well-timed "haha" instead of "hahahaha," the ability to sound way wittier than I am in real life. Texting was my comfort zone. Then I matched with Maya.

Her texts were... underwhelming. One-word responses. Hours between messages. I was ready to write her off as another dating app disappointment when my phone actually rang. Who calls people anymore?

"Sorry, I hate texting," Maya said to me. "I'm much better at talking."

And damn, was she right. She had this infectious laugh that no "hahahaha" could capture. Our five-minute confirmation call turned into a magical two-hour deep life talk. And when we finally met for drinks, it was like seeing an old friend. No awkward first-date energy, just picking up where our call left off.

That's when it hit me: texting sucks. It flattens personalities and turns vibrant, complicated humans into blue bubbles on a screen.

My new rule is simple: if someone's texts don't match their profile energy, suggest a quick call. Who knows, maybe your next great love story will start with 4 terrifying words:

"Incoming call from unknown."